Sunday, May 30, 2010

Verse to the Soldier


Verse to the Soldier
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Get up now;  Chorus for Odysseus;
A brave journey he has taken;
But not a Noman; rather an everyman.

Dying and living; he knows not which.
Stalks of wheat; harvested to the ground,
The chaff, collected by carrion birds,

Yet in reply, to choose forward; to march
In angry riposte to sinew and bone;
Stone in the face of a reaper unknown.

Yet resignation; for this is what he lives;
A peacemaker in the guide of Mars;
To stumble and strive; chaos in the fore

In form, standing against the dark;
taking strength when brothers surround;
With borrowed fortitude, he goes

Get up now;  Chorus for these fellows;
Who take point in shadows stretching;
So we, in the light, celebrate the everyman.




-Steven Lee

Thursday, May 27, 2010

Geeks and the Church.


We all want to be accepted.   We want people to look at us and see something valuable, not as if we are from another planet.

Yet, not all of us are socially adept.  Sometime, the timing, the cadence of our voices, the content of our talk make others feel uncomfortable, or just plain confused as to how to respond.  It used to be that these people were considered geeks, dweebs, nerds, and other more injurious labels.  Now, there are a lot of us.  In fact, the number is growing all the time.

We are all socially awkward.  We all have moments when we have no idea how to respond to other people.  There are more and more situations where we feel alienated or disconnected from others.  Sometimes, we all feel like we are oddballs.

So what do you do if you know that you are socially awkward?   Join a church.

Churches are great because they usually give a little more slack to people who are different.  A few always spend just a little more time getting to know someone who is different.  Sometimes, this is all that makes the difference.  Sometimes, all us geeks and oddballs just want a second and third time to make a first impression.  Strangely enough, a lot of us oddballs are welcomed into a church for the long-term.  It is great when a social institution and a spiritual institution encourages people to be accepting enough to get over the Geek Bump.

The Geek Bump is the time it takes for others to realize that the geek is a person too.  We all have periods of time before another accepts us as "normal enough to talk to," but the geek usually has a much longer period of time before that happens.  The church gives time for others to get over that Geek Bump.

Why should churches be going after us Geeks?

There is no one more loyal than the dog who was lost and is now found.  A geek who feels accepted will feel protective, loving, inspired, and dedicated to the group who has accepted them.   They will work harder, do more, and add to the overall richness of that church.

Geeks know technology and love showing it off.   If you want to have a ministry Twittering, get a geek.  You want a virtual classroom for Sunday School, get a geek.  If you want your church computers to be up and running all the time, get a geek.  If you want to explore the Video Conferencing so churches across the world can join in service and ministry, get a geek.

Lastly; a geek is more likely to be accepting of others, and add the the outreach of the Church.  I am not saying that Geeks are the only great compassionate or accepting people.   However, anyone that adds to the atmosphere that attracts the different, the misfits, the fringe, the geeks, the oddballs is a good thing.

Acceptance attracts acceptance.

Accept a geek in church today.

Tuesday, May 25, 2010

Grady - The Adventures on the Road



He said his name was Grady.

An older man in his 50's, with a long, matted beard and bloodshot eyes.  His face bore the mark of many years; long grooves at the corner of his mouth, wind dried skin in deep wrinkles.  His teeth were worn down, like he had been chewing on some bit of gristle for the last 40 years.  His voice was gravelly; smoke deepened rasp.

He entered my car on the way to Austin.   Said he had to get to 12th street by noon.  From where we were, it was a good hour to go to get there.

He talked about his life on the road.  He had been hitching most of his life.   There were stories about when he was shot and almost bled to death in Arizona.  Another time, he used to beat up drivers and take their money when they let him off.

Should I have felt some fear?

Eventually, he told me about his father who used to beat him when he was young.  He was a preacher's kid.  And his dad would "beat the sin" from his son.  What words of anger and rage came out when he spoke about his dad. 

There was a guitar in my back seat, with a large, golden cross painted on it.  Did Grady see the guitar?  Was there a 2 + 2 that had already made some unspeakable 4 in his mind?  Did it spell trouble.

Grady talked about his one companion, his knife.   He had carried it from the time he was just a boy.  He said that it had protected his life more than once.  Never did he pull it out, but the leather sheath was there at his belt, with a metal handle sticking out.

The road flowed past, faster than it should have.  His history has melted the miles, and focused the attention.  12th street was already in front of us. 

He left with my 40 dollars in his pocket.   Not some payoff for safe passage, but because he was who he was, and taught a little of that to me.

Friday, May 21, 2010

Dreams and the Not Yet Experienced



Have you ever had a dream where you experience something that is totally new, totally unique, something never experienced in your life?

How does your imagination come up with such things if they are truly new and unique?
In the words of a wise man, "I don't know!  But it's cool!"

There was a dream in which I entered a cathedral; which had as its composition, not stone and wood, but gears, pulleys, and crystal.   The vaulted, hexagonal ceilings, arched up, with canvas and twine and steel ropes, braided into the curving walls, with a six point brass pulley at the apex of the ceiling.   Each door was constructed of gears meshing together in a rectangular arrangement, with the teeth blurring the lines between the door and walls.  The floor was of polished discs of metal, spinning together, but when my foot was placed upon them, they stilled, and started up again when I removed them.

Where the altar was supposed to be was a clear crystal box, ten feet on a side.  Several crystal plates were spaced inside, with patterns etched in each plate, and all were moving back and forth.  As the plates moved, patterns would line up and opening appear.  When this happened, water would rush out of the crystal box and cover the floor of the cathedral with a sparkling sheen.

Up at the highest point of the cathedral was a machine like a golden clockwork from a pendulum-driven, grandfather clock.  Each gear was glowing gold, moving around a central hub; changing shape from a diamond outline of 11 gears to a star configuration and back again.   The light coming in from the sky, struck the gears and illuminated the walls and ceiling with ever-changing configurations of light.

What was amazing is that the whole thing was forever moving.  Ropes would stretch as gears would turn.  Water would come in and then drain away.  Geometries of light and shadow were forever changing.

What kind of dream is this to be having?

There was so much going on, such intricacies and perfect timing in the clockworks, that I knew in the dream that this must be real; for my mind could never conceive of and visualize such a perfection of machinery.  Or perhaps, I could?

Friday, May 14, 2010

Why Me God? And other Impossible Questions.


I am not about to get into the whole "Why do bad things happen to good people" conversation.   Philosophers, theologians, scientists and holy men and women have spent enough time on this.  This blog is about why we ask those questions in our darkest times to begin with.

It actually doesn't matter what situation you are in when you get to that point that you start yelling at the sky, "Why Me!!!!"    It could be a flat tire, a late meeting, a lost child in a supermarket, a sick relative, a broken washing machine, or anything that may bring us to the point of overwhelming frustration, or even, calm questioning, "Why Me?"

It may be systematic eroding of our patience, tolerance, endurance, or even faith; that something feels like it is eating away at us, taking away from the richness and value of our life.   It may be a sudden, explosive event that makes us feel like our foundation has been stripped out from underneath us.    

The conclusion is the same:  we feel fractured!

For this moment, or for a long time, the connections, the assurances, the beliefs we once had are thrown into question.  Is it any surprise that we try to find an answer?

I thought everything was going so well?   What happened?


I was just at the point that I was getting my head above water.  Now this!!!


What the Hell!   This is so unfair!

It is strange that when I look at my own life, that I am asking these questions as if ANY answer would satisfy me in these times.   I am looking with my head for answers that are really being asked in my heart.

When I cry out to heaven, I am really crying out for the assurance that these connections I once felt, are still there.  

My head says, Why Me?   My heart says, "I need to be understood!", "I need to feel connected to others in my life again.", "I need to feel loved and appreciated again.", "I need to feel that I still matter to someone else."

Is that why we complain, or like to complain to others?   Do we just want that reassurance that someone is listening?   I know that I sometimes search for sympathy.   However, in those more severe times, I am not searching for sympathy, but love.

Feeling fractured is really the feeling that, during this time of distress, I doubt that I am loved.  

It is irrational, I know.  Why in the world would what is happening have any effect on whether I am loved or not?  Yet, those doubts arise as my discomfort and disharmony and distress increase.

Sometimes then, it is not the answers to the big questions that we really desire.   

It is the loving touch on the shoulder, 
the kind eyes seen turned to us, 
the soft spoken word of support,
the grasped hand of friendship,
the hug of a loved one.

These are the answers to the impossible questions.

Thursday, May 13, 2010

When Someone Asks Us to Pray for Them



What do I do when a friend of mine asks for me to pray for them?   These kind of things I do not take lightly.   Yet, for what am I asking for this other person?

This is a complex question.   I want results for this other person.   I really do.   I would like to put in my order with God and have the desires of this other person come into being.   Right?

In fact, in this case it is really easy.  The desire for my friend would make her life with her family easier.   It would provide a base and place from which to love and support her family.  Why is this not something that God would immediately say "Yes" in answer?

Is it my place to intercede on her behalf with God?  Do I really believe in a God who will not answer such a prayer?  Do I believe in a God who will answer all such prayers?  Is the specific result that she wants, the result that will provide for the most spiritual growth and fulfillment?   All of these questions are so far beyond my wisdom.  

So when I promise to pray for someone, what am I promising?

I promise that:

I will take time out to be intentional; to be quiet; to be still

There is a time that needs to be set aside from all of those distractions of life.   A time where my intention is to, once again, be aware of the presence of God.  

My thoughts and feelings and words will be focused on the greater good for the other person.

In this sense, the greater good is that which promotes love for, to, and around the object of prayer.   This has nothing to do with the actual prayer request.   It could be anything at all.   In any prayer, I place that person or that situation or object in the center of  field of love, connectedness, peace, and joy.   It is like submerging them in a field of God's love and power.

I will thank God for all the great things about whom or what I am praying.

The feelings of gratitude, appreciation and thankfulness will open up the door to my heart, and in this I will be able to see the object of my prayer as a part of life; of feeling connected to all, of being connected to the person or thing the prayer is about.   As I pray for them, or it, I pray for myself.   As I desire to help them, I am helping myself.

I will focus on the feelings that this answered prayer will have for the other person.

Ultimately, I want the object of my prayer to be happy, or to be part of that happiness for another.   Again, regardless of the outcome of circumstances, of the prayer, the point is for those results to be part of the experience of being happy, being fulfilled, being at peace.

If the prayer request is for another to get a job, then I will focus on the feelings that they will experience that a new job brings; the freedom, the joy, the relief, the celebration.   In the end, what comes up is not as important as how we or the other person feels about it.

It may sound like a lot of things are going on when I pray for someone else, but not really.   It all happens so effortlessly when you love the people or the object of your prayer.

I promise.

Sunday, May 9, 2010

A Look at Mother's Day



ORIGIN OF MOTHER'S DAY

The second Sunday in May has been set aside in honor of motherhood. Many churches have special services in which they honor Mothers of the congregation. They usually present the oldest Mom, youngest Mom, and Mom with the most children a corsage.

There is a custom of wearing a carnation on Mother's Day. A colored carnation means that the person's Mother is living. A white carnation indicates that a person's mom is dead.

Years ago, England observed what they called Mothering Sunday. It came in Mid-Lent.

The first suggestion for a day set aside to honor Mothers was made by Julia Ward Howe. She suggested that it be observed on June 2, as a day dedicated to peace.

Julia was born in 1819 in New York to a prominent family. She was an American writer, lecturer, and reformer. She was known as one of the most famous women of her time. She wrote "The Battle Hymn of the Republic", which was inspired when she visited military camps in Washington, D.C., during the Civil War in 1861. It became the major war song of the Union forces.

Julia became interested in the women's movement. She became the first president of the New England Woman Sufferage Association.

Three years after Frank Hering of Indiana launched his campagin for observance of Mother's Day in 1904, Anna Jarvis began a campaign to a nationwide obervance of Mother's Day. She chose the second Sunday in May. She also began the custom of wearing the carnation.

Jarvis' own Mother was honored on the first service at Andrews Methodist Episcopal Church in Grafton,West Virginia, on May 10, 1908. Later, at the general assembly in 1912, a delegate from Andrews Church introduced a resolution recognizing Jarvis as the founder of Mother's Day, and suggested that Mother's Day be observed on the second Sunday in May.

President Woodrow Wilson signed a joint resolution in Congress on May 9, 1914, recommending that the federal government observe Mother's day. The next year, the president was authorized to proclaim an annual holiday.


WORLD WIDE SPREAD OF MOTHERS DAY

Over 40 countries observe Mother’s Day. Here is the history of the spread of Mother's Day throughout the rest of the world:

Argentina

Though most of South America observes Mother's Day—Día de la madre—in May, Argentina celebrates on the second Sunday in October. Due to the country’s geographical station in the southern hemisphere, it could be argued that this choice of a date for the holiday more accurately coincides with the traditional springtime seasonality of the Motherhood festivities.

It is customary to honor Argentinean Mothers with dinners, poems and special gestures of attention. Children write letters in school or make cards and crafts to take home. Husbands cook and clean and look after the family, allowing the mother to relax and enjoy the day. Moms are almost certain to receive flowers, cards, candy, jewelry or an unexpected surprise.

One example of an Argentinean Mother’s Day surprise party involves young children gathering their mothers together, encircling them in a room or hallway and reading them poetry. After the reading, a door at the end of the hall is opened to let in all the children’s grandmothers who have remained in hiding up till then. Jubilation ensues.

France

Inspired by American soldiers in World War I, France celebrated other's Day first in 1918. The Minister of the Interior created the official day in 1920, declaring December 19 La Fete de Meres, Mothers’ Day. The focus then was on the re-population of France following the high rate of attrition from the Great War (aka WWI). Mothers with four or five children were awarded a bronze medal. For six or seven the mother would receive a silver medal, and eight or more offspring garnered the gold. This tradition was abandoned when a more modern version of Mother's Day came from the Vichy government, which on May 25, 1945, instituted the National Day of Mothers. Today a common gift is a cake shaped to resemble a bouquet of flowers, along with candies, flowers, cards and perfumes.

India

A westernized version of Mother's Day is officially observed on May 10 in India, though cities and cultural centers tend to celebrate it more than the smaller settlements. On this day mothers receive flowers, a prepared meal, cards or a phone call.

Yet apart from the modern version of Mother’s Day, Hindus have long celebrated a 10 day festival in October called Durga Puja. As the ancient Greeks honored their earth goddess, the Hindu holiday praises their divine mother, Durga. This ancient festival has evolved into one of the biggest events in India. Families spend weeks preparing food and gifts for friends and cleaning and decorating their houses for parties. Businesses and companies now capitalize and plan their own special promotions for the event, much the same way American businesses have tapped into the market potential of Mother's Day.

Japan

The Japanese call Mother's Day haha no hi. In 1913, Japanese Christians were already celebrating it, based on the American practice. It grew steadily in popularity and in the 1930's it was especially prevalent. That changed during WWII when the practice was banned along with all other western customs.

After the war, however, the tradition was taken up again to help comfort to the Mothers who had lost children in the war. By 1949, the celebration of Mother's Day had again spread throughout the country. The Japanese began holding an art contest for children. The children would enter drawings of their Mothers, and the winning drawings would tour through Japan and other countries in an art exhibit celebrating Mothers and peace. This contest was held every four years.

Today the Japanese celebrate Mother's Day on the second Sunday of May. A family may prepare and enjoy traditional dishes that their mothers taught them to cook. The Japanese give their Mothers flowers (especially red carnations), scarves, handkerchiefs and handbags.

Mexico

On May 10th the Mexicans celebrate the Día de las madres. In 1922 a journalist, Rafael Alducín wrote an article advocating the celebration of Mother's Day in all of Mexico. Though the practice had already spread to parts of Mexico, Alducín’s article led to widespread observance of the holiday, and May 10 is the universal day of celebration in Mexico. In the morning the mother is usually treated to a song sung by her family, or a serenade by a hired band. A family breakfast or brunch is also customary. Any family trouble or enmity is laid aside and all gather to honor the matriarch.

Mexicans typically exchange flowers and chocolates. Cards are very popular, and apparently May 10 is the largest day for card sending in Mexico. Phone calls are also customary if the child cannot make it to see their mother.

United Kingdom

Like the rest of Europe, England and Ireland observed the mid-Lent holiday and honored and decorated their “Mother Church,” the church where they were baptized. The church eventually extended the observation to honor all mothers. The English called this Mothering Sunday and, in the 1700's they observed it by taking a break from the fasting and penitence of Lent and having a family feast. Children would make a rare journey home from their apprenticeships and jobs to spend the day with their mother and family. Mothering Sunday fell out of practice in the early 1900's. After WWII, however, the islanders once again picked up the tradition, inspired largely by the United States. Today the UK’s Mother’s Day continues in much the same way as the old tradition, with cards and dinners in honor of Mom.

In addition, cakes and flowers—especially violets—are given to Mom on Mother’s Day in the United Kingdom. It is customary to serve Simnel Cake, a glazed fruitcake inspired by a folk tale about a married couple, Simon and Nell. So the story goes, this pair could not decide bake or broil a cake. So in the end they did both. Thus Simnel Cake was born.

Yugoslavia

Tied to a three day series of holidays, the Mother's Day cycle in Yugoslavia begins with Children's Day or “Dechiyi Dan” three days before Christmas. The following Sunday is Mother's Day or “Materitse”, and the Sunday after that is Father's Day or “Ochichi.”

On Children's Day the children are tied up and not released until they promise to be good. On Mother's day the mother is bound. To earn her freedom she must give the family treats and candy. The father gets tied the next Sunday but must promise more lavish gifts, clothing or shoes, and these items are usually the family's Christmas gifts.

The typical gifts exchanged include candy, sweets, clothing, shoes, coats—and promises of good behavior.


Other Countries & Regions Celebrating Mother's Day

    * Asia - Many Asian countries that celebrate Mother’s Day tend to draw heavily from the United States’ tradition.
    * Australia - The Australian Mother’s Day is similar to that of the United States, in which families visit each other and dinners. In addition to flowers, cards, jewelry and chocolates, it is customary for Australians to exchange perfume and teas on Mother’s Day.
    * Bahrain - In Bahrain Mother's Day is called Ruz-e Madar and it coincides with the first day of spring, observed as March 21, as are the Mother’s Day celebrations in Lebanon and the United Arab Emirates.
    * Belgium - In the Dutch-speaking parts of Belgium the day is called Moederdag.
    * Canada - Canada was one of the first nation’s to pick up the US version of Mother’s Day, making it a national holiday in 1909, one year later the United States did. The customs largely reflect those of its southern neighbor, although in Canada there seems to be an added emphasis on doing chores for the Mother and cooking her supper.
    * China - While China’s Mother’s Day distinguishes itself little from the United States’, it is interesting to note that most Chinese names begin with a character signifying Mother in honor of ones maternal heritage, helping explain the cultural compatibility of such a holiday, despite it’s having been imported from the West.
    * Denmark - In Denmark dining out to lunch is a popular Mother’s Day pastime. The day is called Mors Dag.
    * Ethiopia - Mother's Day in Ethiopia occurs in mid-fall when the rainy season ends. Called “Antrosht,” Ethiopians celebrate by making their way home when the weather clears for a large family meal and a three day long celebration. For the feast the children bring ingredients for a traditional hash recipe. The ingredients are divided along gender lines, with girls bringing butter, cheese, vegetables and spices while the boys bring a bull or lamb. The mother prepares the hash and hands it out to the family. After the meal a celebration takes place. The mothers and daughters ritually anoint themselves with butter on their faces and chests. They dance while the men sing songs in honor of family and heroes. This cycle of feasting and celebration lasts two or three days.
    * Finland - In Finland Mother’s Day is called aidipayiva. In the morning the family arises and takes a walk, picking the new flowers which bloom this time of year and making a bouquet for the mother. A particular flower called the valkovuokko is favored. This is a small white pungent flower. Back home Mom presented with a decorated bouquet, while also being served breakfast in bed.
    * Hong Kong - Hong Kong’s holiday, called mu quin jie, is notable for its custom to pay honor to the parent of the Mother if she is deceased.
    * Italy - The Italians celebrate La Festa della Mamma with a big feast and a cake made in the shape of a heart. Typically Italian schoolchildren will make something to bring home to their Mothers, and the family will take care of the chores for the day.
    * Norway - The Norwegian Morsdag takes place on February’s second Sunday.
    * Pakistan (and Saudi Arabia) - The May 10 celebration of Motherhood in Saudi Arabia and Pakistan is called Yaum ul-umm. It is inspired by and modeled after the western tradition of Mother's Day in which all mothers are honored and given gifts. Celebrations and feasts are customary.
    * Saudi Arabia - see Pakistan
    * Serbia - Also occurring two weeks before Christmas, the Serbian Mother’s Day tradition is quite similar to the Yugoslavian one. The Sunday prior to Mother’s Day is commemorated by a ritual in which parents tie up their young ones until they promise to behave themselves. Retribution comes a week later when children bind their mother until she offers them candy and other treats. But it doesn’t end on Mother’s Day. The following Sunday it’s the father’s turn to be tied up until he promises some pricey gifts.
    * Singapore - Singapore’s Mother’s Day places a heavy emphasis on marketing a wide variety of gifts including spa packages, vacuums, hampers, jewelry and other more traditional presents such as flowers.
    * South Africa - South Africa celebrates Mother’s Day on the first Sunday in May.
    * Sweden - Sweden’s Mother’s Day, which takes place on the last Sunday in May, has a strong charitable focus: the Swedish Red Cross sells small plastic flowers leading up to the holiday, and the proceeds raised are given to poor mothers and their children.
    * Thailand - Perhaps the most unique Asian Mother's Day holiday takes place in Thailand. The celebration coincides with the birthday of their beloved queen, Sirikit Kitayakara, who has reigned since 1950. Her birthday, and therefore Mother's Day, takes place on August 12.
    * Turkey - Mother’s Day in Turkey is heavily influenced by the traditions from the United States.

We also have a page dedicated to detailing when Mother's Day is held in different regions.

Modern Celebration

When the United States congress approved Mother’s Day in 1914, they designated it for the second Sunday in May, and required that the President proclaim the Holiday every year shortly prior to its commencement. A recent example of a presidential Mother’s Day proclamation can be seen here. While the president proclaims the event, some mothers who lost a child use it to protest against war.

Typically a family in the United States will devote Mother’s Day to activities in honor of Mom, whether playing games, going out to dinner, taking the weekend off or going on a walk in the park. Flowers are popular, dating back to the original celebration where Anna Jarvis handed out carnations to the church-goers. It is also common to give Mother cards and chocolate candies on her special day.

In the United States Mother's Day continues to be highly commercialized.

    * The National Retail Foundation predicts Mother's Day is a $14 Billion industry, offering demographic spend breakdowns.
    * Google Trends shows a sharp spike in search traffic for Mother's Day on Mother's Day in the US and UK and the month leading up to it.
    * Florists see their highest sales in May.
    * US restaurants claim that it is the busiest day of the year.
    * Long distance telephone calls also peak on this day.
    * The US Postal Service experiences increased volume during the surrounding days.
    * According to Hallmark, 96% of American consumers take part in shopping on Mother's Day, while retailers report it as the second highest gift giving day of the year behind Christmas.